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Rose Marie Hayden See Ranck

As described by Rose:  "This is a picture from 2002.
First row left is myself, my older daughter Kristal, our family friend Carrie, husband Lee. Back row left family friend Tony, Kristal's boyfriend James and our youngest daughter Melissa." 

Narratives written by Joseph Hayden:

11-Mar-04 -- Possibly a half-sister (test pending) to Joseph, Italo and Sabina Hayden, Rose was born in Molokai, Hawaii on October 15, 1961.  Now living in Texas with her husband Lee, she has two daughters who are 20 and 22, Melissa and Kristal, respectively.

Rose had a paternity test in February 2004 with Keith See, the man who married her mother (Elizabeth Connie Mangca, b. 1942) in or about 1960.  Keith had hoped he was Rose's biological father, even though Rose was raised by her grandparents in Hawaii and sometimes her mother in Florida.  Keith's marriage to Elizabeth was brief, as he was stricken with tuberculosis after one month and hospitalized for a year, during which time Rose was born.  Elizabeth, also known as "Lei" for short, is a Filipina who lives in Alaska now.  When Rose found out Keith was definitely not her father, she became re-determined to find more out about Floyd William Hayden ("Bill"), who was born on 11-28-39.  She found the web sites of Joseph Hayden and contacted him.  When Joe heard that he might be related to her, he called her in Texas and spoke on the phone with her for several hours, and even videoconferenced a bit to show Rose his daughter, Alexandra, and himself.

All of this transpired years before Bill met Joseph's mother (in 1964) and married her (in 1967).  Joseph was born in 1968, Italo in 1970 and Sabina in 1971.

Via Coast Guard Retirement Headquarters, Rose having heard the suspicion that she was fathered by Bill, sent him a letter in 1987/1988.  She was told that her letter had been delivered to his last known address, which undoubtedly would have been his Hayward home (although they did not confirm the address by law) as he had not moved from there since 1980 and he had retired from the Coast Guard in 1984.  He died still living in that home of a smoking-related aortic aneurysm on November 20, 1990, eight days shy of his 51st birthday.

Rose knew things, from her mother, that I did not know about my father, including some things that my mother disclosed to me for the first time when I asked her what Dad had told her about Elizabeth.  My mother knew that my father had known Elizabeth in Hawaii years before he met her.  My mother knew that Elizabeth was Filipino and had a child and was also aware of my uncle Andrew Charles Hayden, who was also in the service.  Elizabeth also told Rose that Floyd William went by "Bill" and was temporarily out of the Coast Guard to assess whether he wanted to stay in it for a few months living in a house with roommates, and for this reason it can be explained why he was on Molokai, which is an Island in Hawaii which does NOT have a military base, nor was it the island my father grew up on (Oahu).  I had no idea my father was in Hawaii in 1960/61 because he grew up there in the mid-1950's and then moved to San Diego where he finished high school.  I knew that at age 17 (he lied about his age), he joined the Coast Guard, much to the chagrin of his step-mother.  Bill's father had been in three branches of the military and Bill's older brother became a Navy SEAL.  Bill's half-brother Dan Stief, on his mother side, also joined the military and was actually stationed in Italy at the same time as Bill at one point.  Bill was in the Coast Guard a total of 27 years.

I was very proud to hear that with no paternity test existing at the time (to my knowledge) and even with Keith See's name on the birth certificate, my father sent money to Elizabeth at least from 1961-1964 (the year he met my mother while stationed in Italy).  Obviously Elizabeth must have been having tough times as a mother of a newborn with a husband in the hospital for a year.

We have no idea if Bill received the letter in 1988 as confirmed by the Coast Guard, but he had quintuple bypass surgery that year and therefore his mortality was looking him in the face.  He picked up cigarettes again one month after his invasive surgery and was dead within two years.  He started smoking when he lived in Hawaii at the age of 13, the mean age that tobacco companies know people start to smoke.

12-Mar-04 -- I found my father's medical records and he was B negative blood type.  Rose's mother is A positive.  Based on this blood type form (keeping in mind that Rose is Type O):

http://www.biology.arizona.edu/human_bio/problem_sets/blood_types/inherited.html

...Keith could not have been Rose's father, as further evidenced by the 100% accuracy of the test in the linked PDF file.  This PDF file that Rose sent me not only has the DNA test results that she took with Keith and her mother, but also has pictures of her and her daughters, the letters she sent to my father in the 1980's via the Coast Guard and her birth certificate.  However, my father COULD have been Rose's father based on the blood types and Elizabeth (Rose's mother) swears it could only be one of the two men.

18-Nov-05 -- Rose and I were disappointed in the statistical report that she spent about $1,000 on and I'm disappointed that my mother would not cooperate with a cotton swap sample which could have improved the statistic by 20%.  I still see no logic in denying the truth, however, that Rose is my sister.  The evidence is mostly circumstantial but very hard to refute.  If my estranged uncle would only confirm the rest of my family might be more reasonable.

So a friend of mine who is white who I have known for a few years and who lives in NC was passing through New York on his way to San Francisco for the first time and was talking to me about this long-lost half sister that he had.  He said he was going to meet her for the first time.  He is also one of three kids from his parents and has been in contact with her more than the others.  He is going to spend Thanksgiving with her.  His father apparently sired this child years before meeting his mother but the father had not confirmed all of this until about a year ago on the Internet when he finally tracked her down.  Apparently her biological mother died when she was 8 and then she was adopted.  She has one daughter and is married and lives north of San Francisco (my old hood basically).  So I'm telling Tim about Rose and the frustration I’ve had with my family coping with it, even though my mother went out of her way to bring you up in conversation in front of beach-full of family members in Italy last summer, giving me the perfect segue to tell MY side of the story.

But here’s the kicker.  On top of everything else, Tim’s half-sister, who is almost exactly the same age as Rose, is HALF-FILIPINO!  His father was stationed there when he met her mother!  We almost fell out of our chairs.  His mother is not TOO thrilled about the family connection, but she is still supportive, as I know my mother – who is above all loyal to her children – would be when I get to meet Rose.  I’d like to think that my father would have gone out of his way to find Rose had he lived long enough to take advantage of the Internet.  We’ll never know because we don’t even know if he got that poignant letter from her.